There’s always a lot of talk about building your dream life or living out your dreams. For many people, that’s a myth. They don’t have the opportunity to make the changes and choices that will allow them to move closer to the life they aspire to have. But business owners have a unique set of circumstances that make that a real possibility.
In this solocast, I’ll tell you a little bit about an exercise that I believe can help you define how you’d like your life to be and begin to move in that direction. I know it can be a powerful experience because it has had a huge impact on my own life and getting closer to living my dream life.
Join me in mapping out the future that you are uniquely positioned to create. In this episode, we’ll talk about:
- A CPA I recently met in San Diego who has built his life around what he loves most of all
- An exercise that a coach I had about 10 years ago shared with me and the impact that exercise has had
- Why my life would not look like it does today if 10 years ago I hadn’t visualized what I wanted it to look like ten years down the road
- Why it’s okay if everything doesn’t play out exactly the way you visualize
- How to do the exercise my coach gave me
Drew McLellan is the Top Dog at Agency Management Institute. For the past 20+ years, he has also owned and operated his own agency. Drew’s unique vantage point as being both an active agency owner and working with 250+ small- to mid-size agencies throughout the year, give him a unique perspective on running an agency today.
AMI works with agency owners by:
- Leading agency owner peer groups
- Offering workshops for owners and their leadership teams
- Offering AE bootcamps
- Conducting individual agency owner coaching
- Doing on-site consulting
- Offering online courses in agency new business and account service
Because he works with those 250+ agencies every year — he has the unique opportunity to see the patterns and the habits (both good and bad) that happen over and over again. He has also written two books and been featured in The New York Times, Entrepreneur Magazine, and Fortune Small Business. The Wall Street Journal called his blog “One of 10 blogs every entrepreneur should read.”
To listen – you can visit the Build A Better Agency site (https://agencymanagementinstitute.com/drew-mclellan-solocast-episode-15/) and grab either the iTunes or Stitcher files or just listen to it from the web.
If you’d rather just read the conversation, the transcript is below:
Table of Contents (Jump Straight to It!)
- Why You Need to Be Intentional About Building Your Dream Life
- Getting in the Right Mindset to do this Exercise
- Why You Need to Learn How to Build Your Dream Life NOW
- Why it’s Okay if Everything Doesn’t Play Out Perfectly
- Keep the End in Mind
If you’re going to take the risk of running an agency, shouldn’t you get the benefits too?
Welcome to Build a Better Agency, where we show you how to build an agency that can scale and grow, with better clients, invested employees, and best of all, more money to the bottom line. Bringing his 25+ years of expertise as both an agency owner and agency consultant to you, please welcome your host, Drew McLellan.
Drew McLellan: Hey everybody, Drew McLellan here with another episode of Build a Better Agency. Today is one of my solocasts, so no guests today. Just you and I hanging out, talking about something that’s on my mind, that I want to make sure is sort of within your sphere of consciousness.
We’re going a little off track today. A lot of times, when I do a solocast, I’m talking about something very specific around agency management, and I want to ask you to indulge me, for me to go a little bit off the beaten path today.
Why You Need to Be Intentional About Building Your Dream Life
I don’t know if you can hear it or not, but behind me is the sound of crashing waves. I’m in San Diego, actually on Pacific Beach. I’ve been here all week, meeting with agency owners, and it’s been a great week, but every morning, I’ve been getting up early, and I have been going for a walk before my meetings, and the hotel that we stay at is literally right on the boardwalk and the beach.
One of the things that’s been fun to do is morning, noon, and night, there are surfers out on the water. I’ve had a good time watching them.
As I was on my walk the other day, I got into a conversation with a surfer. You know, we greeted each other as I was walking by. It was about six in the morning, Pacific Coast time, so I said, “Gosh, it’s early to be out here,” and he said, “Yeah, well I have to get it in early, because I have to be at work at eight.” I said, “What do you mean?” He said, “Well, I’m a CPA.”
I said, “Really?” I said, “But you come out here every day?” He was like, “Yeah. I built my whole life around being able to do the things that I love, and one of the things that I love the most is surfing, so at least five mornings a week, I get up at five, I come out here, I’m on the water by six. I surf for about an hour, and then I head home, and I shower, and I head into work.”
Our conversation went on from there, but you know, it just struck me how intentional he was about building his life, and how he had really identified what mattered to him, and nothing was going to get in the way of him doing what he loved to do.
Then I got to thinking about an exercise that I had done many years ago. I was working with a coach, an executive coach, and this was before I owned AMI. I owned my agency, and I had owned it for, gosh, 15 or so years, but I had not stepped into the ownership or the leadership role at AMI yet, so figure it was 10 years ago.
He took me through a series of exercises, and I will share with you that exercise in the show notes. Otherwise you can jump to it right here. Basically, I had to put myself in a headspace where I was talking about the future as though it had already happened. He put me into the headspace, where I think it was going to be 2015 or 2020.
Getting in the Right Mindset to do this Exercise
A reporter was coming to interview me, and was asking me a series of questions. I can remember doing the exercise, and I got to tell you, I totally got into it. The key to doing this exercise, and I’d love for you to do it, the key to the exercise is you have to really suspend today. You have to really put yourself into your future self’s position, and see exactly what you would like your life to be, and what you would like it to be filled with, and what you want to be doing.
The questions are very specific around work, and workplace, and who you serve, and the kind of work you do, and also what the rest of your life is like. What do you do in your leisure time, and who do you spend time with? If you listened to my earlier podcast, probably, I don’t know, maybe five or 10 weeks ago, about the five people that you surround yourself with, kind of those kinds of questions.
I can remember going through the exercise, and completely immersing myself into it, and I got to tell you, the reality that I created, back in ’07, or whenever I did it, was dramatically different than the reality I was actually living.
As I stepped through that exercise, I got really clear about what I wanted my life to be, and don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I had a lousy life, or I couldn’t feed my family, or things were bad. I was happy where I was, but it clearly wasn’t where I wanted to end up. There was more that I wanted to do.
I will tell you, and I know you’re going to think this is crazy, but when I go back … I review that every year, and even ’08, ’09, 2010, all of a sudden, I was starting to make decisions, and I was starting to move towards that reality, and now, today, when I read those documents, because it’s a big, long series of questions. It’s multiple documents. When I read that document, I would say 95% of what seemed ludicrous to even dream of, a decade ago, is my daily life today.
I am working with the kind of people that I want to work with. I am serving them. I can remember one of the elements in the reporter exercise that I did, one of the things that I talked about was that I wanted to create some online courses, because I wanted to have passive income, where I didn’t have to be in a specific place at a specific time, to make money.
I can remember thinking, “I have no idea how to do that.” Well you know what? We’re getting ready to launch my second online course for AMI, in the next month. Even the things that seemed completely out of reach, actually weren’t, and aren’t. So here’s my message to you. There is no one on this planet who has a better shot at building the exact life that they want than you do.
Odds are, if you’re listening to this, you own your own business, or you’re in a leadership position inside an agency, and you have so much more control over your life, over your earning potential, over where you live, how you live, where you work, how you work. You have so much more control over all of that than the average person.
Why You Need to Learn How to Build Your Dream Life NOW
If you can’t do it, no one can. But here’s my question for you. Do you even have any idea what that ideal life is? Do you know where you want to work, and who you want to serve, and how you want to make a living, and how you want to spend your leisure time? Are you the CPA who knows that he wants to be on the water, and in the water surfing, every single day? Or do you have some vague idea that you’ll figure it out down the road sometime?
And you know what? The time to figure it out is now. The time to lay the plan is now. The time to begin to make decisions about what that looks like is now. I’m not going to get all sort of woo woo new age on you, but I’m telling you, being clear about your intentions is the first step to having the life that you want, and as you know if you’ve been listening to this podcast for any length of time, I am adamant that you should have an amazing life.
You have taken all the risks of owning your own business. You have all these people, if you have employees, who literally sit on your shoulders and count on you to pay their mortgage, and put their kids through college, every single month. You have taken on the weight of the world. The very least the world owes you in return is a life worth living.
But you get to define what that life is. You have to define what that life is, and you need to do that today. I’m telling you, when I go back and I look at what I wrote 10 years ago, and I can remember working with my coach at the time, and writing it, and saying to him, “This is crazy. I have no idea how it would … It sounds awesome, but I have no idea how I would do this.”
His advice to me was, “Just keep seeing it, and keep dreaming it, and we’ll figure out how to get you there, but first we have to be really clear on the dream.” He was absolutely right. When I think back to how far I’ve come, and you know what? Along the way, I didn’t even know I was taking those steps. Sometimes it was conscious. Sometimes I would read that and go, “You know what? I do want to make this decision.”
But a lot of times, just having that very, very clear picture in my head, of knowing where I wanted to be, and what I wanted to be doing, I have no doubt influenced the decisions I made, for both the agency side of my business and the AMI side of my business, that have now allowed me, today, to really tell you, when I read through that, almost all of it has either come true, or I’m close to it.
It’s interesting, some of them aren’t exactly the way I thought they would play out. One of the elements that I wanted was I wanted to do a lot of speaking at conferences and things like that, but I thought it would be about marketing.
That was what I wrote about, but really, now what I do, as you know, is I am all over the globe, talking and teaching about running an agency, so I am doing it. I am speaking at conferences. I am creating thought leadership pieces. I am being paid to share my expertise, and to coach, and to teach. It’s just not on the topic that I thought.
Why it’s Okay if Everything Doesn’t Play Out Perfectly
So everything didn’t play out exactly how I thought it would, but dang, it is close, and I have a life today, that back then was just a dream, and today is my daily reality. I have my version of being out on the water every day and surfing, but the only reason I have it is because I got really clear about what it was, and then I put a plan in place to slowly get there.
It’s not an overnight sort of thing. Don’t get me wrong, and it’s not that my life is perfect, or that there aren’t things that I still want to accomplish, or tweak, or change, but I am a lot closer, because I took the time to craft out the vision, and the dream. And that’s what I want you to do. I want you to be really clear about what your life can be.
This isn’t just your work life. This is about your life. This is about how and where and when you engage with your family. It is about where you live. It’s about who you surround yourself with. It’s about where you spend your money. It’s about who you help. It’s about your entire life, and most people, and you and I know this, most people just go through life one step after another, and they sort of are just marching to the end, even though they’re not sure what the end is.
I don’t want that for you, and you are uniquely set up to not have to suffer that fate. You are uniquely positioned to craft the life that you want, and move yourself towards it.
So here’s what I want you to do. I want you to go to the show notes, and I want you to download this exercise, and I want you to fill it out, and it is going to take some time, so the way this exercise works is it really is an all-or-none sort of exercise. You have to fully embrace it or it won’t work. If you censor yourself, if you say, “That’s crazy!”, if you put limitations on what’s possible, you’re not going to create the vision that you need it to be.
But basically you sit down and you say, “It’s five years from now,” or it’s 10 years from now, and you’re being interviewed by this reporter, and I want you to answer every question with as much detail and richness that you can. When I did this, every answer, to each question, was a few pages long, so it’s not a single sentence sort of activity. It is a really soak on it and think about it, and you have to suspend reality.
It’s like, “If I could create the perfect, ideal life, what would it be? How would I answer this question?” Try not to look ahead at the questions. Try to take them one at a time, answer them fully, give yourself ample time to think about it, so maybe read the question, and let it just soak or marinate for a couple of days before you sit down and you write the answer. Find a quiet space for yourself, and really take the time to answer the question with as much detail, and as much vision, in terms of what is possible, as you can.
I spent about six weeks on this exercise, because I wanted to soak on each question, and I wanted to really be able to capture my vision, in my head, so that I could articulate it on paper.
Keep the End in Mind
I think what you’re going to find is once you really dig into this, and you immerse yourself into it, it becomes very real, and then it’s about how do you start to move towards that vision? So please, I’m hoping that you will go to the show notes, that you will download this exercise, and that you will figure out what is your version of the surf, and what do you need to do to get there?
You’ve worked hard your whole life. You’ve taken all of these risks. You deserve to have an amazing life, and I don’t want you to start chasing that amazing life when you’re in your 60s, or 70s, or 80s. I don’t care how old you are right now. I want you to start chasing it today, and I want you to get as close to it as you can, as soon as you can, and it starts with understanding where it is.
What is that old phrase? “You begin with the end in mind.” I think it was Steven Covey who said that. I want you to begin with the end in mind, so please, go to the show notes, download this exercise, and figure out what your surf is, so that you can get there, and you can enjoy every day like my new CPA friend does, and like I get to, because you deserve it.
Thank you for listening. Thanks for indulging me, I know this was a little different than my normal podcasts, but I hope it was helpful. And I hope you understand that it’s all part of a bigger picture, right? We work hard, because we want to have a certain kind of life, and I want you to have that kind of life.
I will be back with you next week, with a guest, and we will probably get into the nitty gritty of running an agency again, but for this week, I just want you to think about your life and what’s possible, and what you really want it to be.
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Have a great week. Please do this exercise so you can have a great life, and I will be back next week. Talk to you soon.
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