Unlimiting your beliefs with Karen Brown

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It doesn’t matter what kind of agency you run, traditional, digital, media buying, web dev, PR, whatever your focus, you still need to run a profitable business. That’s why Agency Management Institute started the Build a Better Agency Podcast a few years ago. We help agencies just like yours, grow and scale your business, attract and retain the best talent, make more money and keep more of what you make. Bringing his 25 plus years of experience as both an agency owner and agency consultant, please welcome your host, Drew McLellan.

Drew McLellan:

Hey everybody, Drew McLellan here with another episode of Build a Better Agency. Now one of the reasons why I love the work that we get to do at Agency Management Institute is quite honestly, because I love hanging out with agency owners and agency leaders. You are a committed group of people, you are overachievers, you are funny and smart. And yet, I think for all of you, every one of us has something that we want to get done. We want to write a book, we want to exercise more, we want to build our business, whatever it may be, there are things that we want to do that seem like they are a little out of our reach.

So no matter how much of an overachiever we are, no matter how hard we work, just sort of feels like there are some dreams that aren’t meant to be had. And quite honestly, what I have seen over time is I have seen so many agency owners figure out a way to get those limiting beliefs, to get that idea that you can’t work four days a week and still be successful or you can’t actually take two weeks off and not check your phone or you can’t double the size of your agency or you can’t stop smoking, lose weights, lower your blood pressure, whatever it is, whatever your health goals are. I’ve seen enough of you do it and I know it’s possible. And I know that there is something in all of us that we have to figure out a way to tap.

Which is why I was super excited to invite Karen Brown to the podcast. So let me tell you a little bit about Karen, because she’s a little bit of an unusual guest for us here at Build a Better Agency. Interestingly, she works with a lot of agency owners and agency leaders in her coaching business, but that’s really not her background. So she is a coach and an advisor and also an author. And she helps high achieving type A superstars in their professions and in their personal lives actually accomplish even more. And she does that by helping them understand their unconscious mind and their conscious mind and how those things work together and sometimes do not work together.

So Karen’s written a great book called Unlimiting Your Beliefs, and has really dialed into the idea of that our body and our mind have these patterns. And some of them are from our childhood and some of them are from our professional life. But in many cases, we’re unaware of those patterns, particularly what’s going on in our unconscious mind. And she’s going to give you some stats that are going to blow your mind, no pun intended, about how much of our brain we actively use and how much of that is at the conscious level and how much of that is at the subconscious or unconscious level. And how we can tap into that. And how do we identify when there is conflict between our conscious and unconscious mind. How do we identify those conflicts and resolve them so we can actually accomplish what we want to get done.

And so I suspect this conversation is going to be crazy fast and it’s going to go in some places that normally on the show, we don’t really go to, we say pretty pragmatic and practical. And I think this is going to be a little deeper than sometimes we go and I hope you’ll stick with us, I hope you will stay. And if you find yourself dismissing some of this or thinking, oh, that Drew has gone off the deep end this time. I would challenge you that it seems to me that that’s your unconscious mind telling you don’t listen, don’t listen, you might learn something I don’t want you to know.

I will say this, I’ve read most of the book, I am going to finish the book this weekend. And I’m excited about it. There are some things that I want to do that I have been not able to get to yet. And I’m excited that with some of the techniques. It’s all science based. It’s all very practical and pragmatic once you get to it, you just have to get to sort of the steps of doing it. And there’s some stuff I want to get done.

So I promise I’m going to report back to you probably in a solo cast. What it is that I’m going to tackle after I finish the book and you’re going to hold me accountable to it and I will share with you how I’m doing in terms of getting those limiting beliefs out of the way so that I can accomplish even more for myself and my family and for all of you. So I’m super excited about this interview, I think you’re going to find it fascinating. And so I’m excited to dive in, so let’s do that. So without further ado, Karen, welcome to the show. Thanks so much for joining us.

Karen Brown:

Thanks for having me on Drew, excited to be here.

Drew McLellan:

I am so excited to have this conversation. Because, I’m about halfway through the book. And it’s brilliant. And I just, I think what you teach and talk about is so critical. So my listeners are successful people, they’ve got successful agencies, they’re growing and building teams. But I think all of them at some point or another, and myself included, I think at some point, we sort of feel like we’ve reached our bandwidth, we have nothing more to do, maybe we’ve crossed the four-oh line, and we’re sort of feeling a little tired. And so I think your book’s message, not only is it intellectually interesting, but I find it sort of inspiring that I do have more gas in my tank than I thought I did. And I can do more things. So I’m super excited to have this conversation.

Karen Brown:

Me too, man, this is the juicy stuff.

Drew McLellan:

This is the juicy stuff. So talk a little bit about our brain and the conscious mind versus the unconscious mind and what happens in those two places. And some maybe a misperception or two that we have about that.

Karen Brown:

Sure. All right. So for the sake of our conversation today, let’s just agree that the conscious, sorry, the unconscious brain is the same as the subconscious because I get that question out of the gate a lot. Are those two different? Yes, in scientific terms, they are different, but we’re not going into a science class today. So I like to use the term unconscious mind and subconscious mind just for our conversation today means the same. All right. So the unconscious mind is actually the primary driver of everything we think and do in a day. And it’s also responsible for all learning, behavior and change. In fact, this is a staggering statistic that only 0.008% of all daily thoughts and actions are conscious.

Drew McLellan:

That’s crazy. That’s a crazy number.

Karen Brown:

Yes.

Drew McLellan:

When you think about how crazy and busy and noisy your brain is, it makes you wonder, wow, what is the unconscious sound like, it must be insane.

Karen Brown:

Actually no, the unconscious is a very simplistic yet powerful machine. And actually, the analogy I like to use for the unconscious mind is caveman brain. Because it is so simplistic, it thinks like a caveman, but the processing speed is faster than anything we know up or can measure.

Drew McLellan:

So how do we tap more into that part of our brain? Because it sounds like we’re not using one of the most powerful parts of our brain as well, we haven’t trained it or we’re not tapping into it. So how do we go about getting there? And what gets in the way of that?

Karen Brown:

I’m so glad you asked. First of all, what gets in the way of tapping into it is this pattern and this premise of thinking consciously. Well, I’m making a decision to do this, I’m making a decision to grow my agency or expand my services. And so that’s what we’re going to do. And here’s how we’re going to do it. Now, what I often find in working with clients in these businesses is that what happens is the unconscious mind and what’s going on in it, say unconscious values about your career, that’s a big one that gets in the way because if you’re pursuing something at a conscious level, say growth or expansion, it is in direct conflict with say your first top five or top three unconscious career values and say your number one is something like creativity or doing phenomenal or pioneering work, then those two things are going to be in conflict and you’re going to find yourself holding back from and probably not getting the results you want on expansion or growth or both.

Drew McLellan:

So how do you figure out what your unconscious mind is thinking? So you can align?

Karen Brown:

Yes, you can align. And the first thing, the first way that we get a glimpse of what’s going on in the unconscious mind is to ask questions. So we ask questions like when we go through limiting beliefs, we’ll ask a question, which is, what is stopping me from achieving X? So whatever your goal or dream is, ask yourself, what’s stopping me from achieving that goal or dream? And then it’s amazing what happens. Now, your first response, sort of reactionary response is usually, well, I don’t know. And stick with it. Because keep asking yourself that question. Because the answers all live in our unconscious mind. We’re just not used to asking ourselves questions like that, we’re actually used to the other pattern, the conscious pattern, which is I think of something, I make a decision, I think of something, I make a decision.

And then we want to get an action about that. That’s all conscious kind of stuff, but it’s all being driven from the unconscious. So it just makes sense then, when you ask a question that’s actually answered in the unconscious, then you’re going to be able to get into action and achieve it more quickly and easily because now you’re self aware of what’s going on. Now, there’s sometimes then, if there is a conflict somewhere that, that awareness is just step one and then we’ll need to do something to resolve it, that’s actually the relatively easy part. The tougher part is A being blind that you don’t know what’s going on and B not choosing to do anything once you become aware.

Drew McLellan:

So I know that you’ve been doing this work for a long time. But in the book, and I know in some of the other appearances you’ve made, one of the focal points of your story is the fact that you really mastered all of this stuff when you decided that at the age of, I think 46, you were going to compete in an Ironman competition, right?

Karen Brown:

Yes, yes, actually, it had been a 28 year dream of mine that during that whole time, I was very outwardly successful. I climbed the corporate ladder, became an executive in different companies, different industries, and had all the trappings of success. And I think, like you said earlier, probably felt like I was nearing the big four-oh or I was at it. And I was at my bandwidth. And thought, well, what else is there, but the whole time I had this nagging feeling that was growing deep inside of me. And it was always related to thinking about doing the Ironman World Championships as an amateur athlete.

And what I found was, I was holding myself back that entire time through something called limiting beliefs. When I would say, well, the folks that compete in the Ironman are elite and I am just a recreational athlete, how could I possibly get there and compete? And that is how a limiting belief works. You think of it, you come up with whatever the limitation is, it comes straight from your unconscious, because think caveman brain. In caveman times, our unconscious mind had to keep us protected, it had to keep us alive from threats, right?

And so that’s actually the default pattern of your unconscious mind. When you think about doing something big or scary or audacious or that you haven’t done before, your unconscious pattern comes in and says, “Oh, no, no, that might be harmful to us, that might kill us.” Like an Ironman might have, right. And nope, nope, we’re not going to be able to do that. And it quickly looks for a previous pattern, maybe an experience you’ve had that it thinks is the same. And then says, “Oh, well see, this thing is just like that thing and you’re not going to be able to do it.”

Drew McLellan:

Interesting. So I have to guess, I would guess that I’m typical in some ways of my listeners. But I would have to guess that the most common limiting belief that my audience has, and probably most business owners have is, either there’s not enough time. I don’t have enough time to do this. I don’t have enough time to exercise every day. I don’t have enough time to do the new business things I need to. I don’t have enough time to actually mentor my employees. How does somebody wrestle that limiting belief down to the ground?

Karen Brown:

That’s a great question. I get this all the time. Right, pun intended. First of all, the conscious thing to be aware of here is that, yes, we all have 24 hours in a day and we have enough time for everything we actually want to do and oftentimes, it’s just finding either the things that we need to say no to that are taking the time away from what we really want to do, which I found in my journey, or it’s doing it in a more efficient manner, which we can go through that in a moment, which is how to effectively, you said mentor, but really coach team members. Because once you switch into a different pattern there, man, you tap into people’s natural motivation, their engagement and you will spend far less time mentoring them and pushing them to do things, you will ignite them and then just literally get out of their way. It’s really cool.

So with regard to limiting beliefs in time and the unconscious mind, first of all, remember that question I went through earlier, which is actually part of a scientific technique and the way, the scientific way that you can conquer and transform limiting beliefs, right, because that’s really all that’s going on there. It’s a limiting belief that you’re just getting caught in that thought pattern. So the first thing to do is, and we have a document for this, so and you can also just write it on a piece of paper. But it’s important to write this out with that old fashioned device called a pen and a piece of paper.

Drew McLellan:

What. There’s not an app for this?

Karen Brown:

No, there’s not an app for this. Because this is one of the gateways to the unconscious mind. Now remember, the unconscious mind is caveman brain, okay. So the gateways to it are like antiquated or old fashioned, old school.

Drew McLellan:

Simple.

Karen Brown:

That’s the thing, right? So writing things out, this is why journaling is oftentimes so effective for people. Also, asking yourself questions and writing down the answers that come up for you, capturing them, writing them out. Also, visualizing what something will look, feel and sound like to achieve. That these are all doorways into the unconscious mind, okay. So for limiting beliefs, basically, we’re just going to use a sheet of paper and we’re going to ask ourselves that beginning question, what is stopping me from achieving X?

And if your first answer, and this is a key point, capture everything as you think of it in the exact way you think of it. Now, everyone out there is probably an agency owner and/or on a some sort of leadership capacity. And so you guys are used to marketing things. Marketing spin there.

Drew McLellan:

Your spin.

Karen Brown:

No, just write it down exactly as it comes out of your mind, okay, and in the same order. Capture it. And if the number one thing is I don’t have enough time, okay, that is a limiting belief. Because when you think things like, I don’t have enough time, money, talent, skill, support, those are usually the top five, that is, in essence, a limiting belief, okay. So capture all of the limiting beliefs that come out. And when I did this, and it was related to the Ironman. First of all, I thought that my personal dream of the Ironman had nothing to do and no effect on or impact on my professional life or performance.

And I couldn’t have been more wrong. I thought they were two separate things. And actually, they were inextricably linked. And once I tapped into this personal dream of mine of the Ironman and started growing and developing and using these scientific techniques, I got so much better in my professional performance. It was staggering. So those are inextricably linked.

Drew McLellan:

So talk a little bit more about that. Was that just because once you learned how to tap into your unconscious mind because of your personal goal, then you were able to do that professionally as well?

Karen Brown:

Yes, it was a method of expansion. And specifically regarding time, because this is such a big thing, especially for the folks in your tribe and me at the time. So what I found and having to go through this, first of all, when you take on an Ironman, you have to do two to three workouts a day, six days a week.

Drew McLellan:

It’s not just I want to get my 10,000 steps in.

Karen Brown:

Right. So two to three workouts a day. And I also was running an office or an agency just like your listeners. So I still had to perform and meet all of my daily professional responsibilities. I wasn’t able to shift and work later or work longer or work on the weekend, because on the weekend, I had longer workouts to do. And by the time I was done with them, I was on the couch sleeping.

Drew McLellan:

I can’t even imagine.

Karen Brown:

What I had to do was figure out a better way. So the time I had was finite, but I had to still do these things. And I had to figure out a way to do it. What I had to learn was to identify the things that I had to say no to, those things that I was probably wasting time on that more than wasting time, they were eating up the critical time that I needed to achieve my goal or dream.

Like back then I would watch TV at night. Now I know, now we have all these other devices and Hulu and all this other stuff. But it’s essentially the same thing. Right? I often call my cell phone a dream killer. Because it’s all a bunch of distractions that come through that thing, right, either it’s social media or it’s notifications, about messages or something like that, or it’s a place for entertainment. Well, in essence though, all of those are distractions, because they take time. And so when you identify what are the things that are distracting you the most and specifically getting in your way of achieving what you really want, it’s a powerful thing to say no to them.

Like I literally during that time, and this was the first time I learned this, and maybe for your listeners, this will be the first time they learn it, I learned that my cell phone had an off button. Or there was an off setting for notifications. Or I could turn off my apps. I mean, just like this or I could even just choose to pick one or two times a day to respond to incoming messages, emails, texts, phone calls, whatever. And I could set up auto responses that said, hey, really appreciate you getting touch, I will be returning your message during this time and this time, and then I would stick to it, right.

What it also forced me to do was the time that I was working, I was so much more highly focused. Because I didn’t have extra time to waste. I didn’t have the luxury of extra time. And what I found was, when I did this, I found the limiting belief. And then I actually went to work on it. I had much more time than I ever realized before. In fact, I ended up having extra time even though I was having to complete all of these workouts and everything to get to the Ironman.

Drew McLellan:

I think a lot of people when they get to the, I want to do an Ironman or let’s ratchet it back for somebody whose goal perhaps is not as lofty, I just want to exercise three times a week, because I’ve got a lot of agency owners that it’s a high stress job and it’s something that they want to do, and they just can’t find the time for it, or I want to spend more time with my kids or whatever it is. But when they get to the limiting belief of I don’t have enough time, they get stuck.

And so therefore they don’t keep moving, they dismiss the goal or the idea as impossible. So I just want to make sure I’m understanding you. So what you’re saying is the trick to get into this is to keep pushing past the I don’t have time and say what does that really mean? Where how am I spending my time? What’s eating up my time? Or whatever the limiting belief is, I’m not smart enough, I’m not skilled enough, whatever it is, it really is pushing past or have that crust of the limiting belief and finding out what’s underneath, right?

Karen Brown:

Let me dial this in, because this is a great question. All right. So when we came up with that limiting belief, the number one being, I don’t have enough time. Then what we do to scientifically transform that limiting belief is then we go to the right hand side of that same piece of paper where we captured that limiting belief and write down the opposite of it. So I have more than enough time, okay. Now, here’s where it gets really fun. Because basically what we need to do to transform or conquer a limiting belief, to open up our unconscious mind, to be able to see these opportunities for time that we really do have that we’re just, that we need to say no to, we’ve got to tell the unconscious mind that that’s what we want.

Because right now, it’s just holding us back by saying, I don’t have enough time. I don’t have enough time. See, you don’t have enough time, right. Here’s what you do. Capture that piece of paper and that limiting belief and carry it with you every day. Now, when you catch yourself thinking that limiting belief, stop what you’re doing and verbalize, and I don’t care where you are. There’s no reason this can’t be fun. Verbalize.

Drew McLellan:

Or freak out a crowd.

Karen Brown:

Yeah, exactly. It is an icebreaker, that’s for sure. And you’ll get some funny looks as well. Like I said, go with it. Have fun. You guys are marketing and advertising people. All right, so stop what you’re doing right then and verbalize the unlimited belief, which is, I have more than enough time. Now what you do by doing that is you are changing, you’re actively changing that habitual thought pattern in your unconscious mind. And you’re literally telling it, I do have enough time. Then what happens is, your unconscious mind will start identifying these ways that you can get more time.

Honestly, take it from me, I’ve gone through this, a ton of other clients have gone through this as well using the same exact technique. And it works like gangbusters with everything. So what happens is because you told your unconscious mind this is what I want and I have enough time. Then these great ideas bubble up. It then like serves them up to you on a platter. It goes oh, yeah, see, we could cut that out right there. See, we don’t need that right there. Yep. You don’t need to do this. Amazing. Everybody test this out. It works like gangbusters.

And what’s even cooler about it is when that person or those people around you hear you verbalize your unlimited belief, I have more than enough time. They’re going to ask you what you’re doing. Clue them in, share this, share this, okay, because it’s going to help them too, because we all suffer from the same thing which is limiting beliefs.

Drew McLellan:

Right. And is time the most powerful limiting belief or is there one that gets in our way even more than that one?

Karen Brown:

The one that trumps time is essentially, I’m not good enough. I can’t do it.

Drew McLellan:

And do you think everybody has that?

Karen Brown:

Every one. Yes. This is why I wrote the book. And this is why I’m on a mission with it to eradicate limiting beliefs and transform our world because this is the number one scientifically proven thing that holds everyone back.

Drew McLellan:

Let’s take a quick break and then we’ll come back and talk about how we make that limiting belief go away. Thanks for tuning in to Build a Better Agency. Just wanted to take a quick second and remind you that throughout the year, AMI offers workshops for agency owners, agency leaders and account executives. So if you head over to the AMI website and you check out under the training tab, you’re going to find a calendar of all of the workshops we offer throughout the year. We cover quite a wide variety of topics, everything from bizdev to creating a content machine for your agency to making sure that you are running your business based on the best financial metrics and dashboards that you can. We also have a workshop on agency owner management hacks, all the best practices that agency owners are using to run their businesses well and profitably.

And of course, you’re always going to find our account executive boot camp and our advanced AE boot camp. So go ahead and check it out on the website. And hopefully, one of those will meet a need for you and your agency and we’ll see you soon. Let’s get back to the episode. We are back with Karen Brown and we are talking about how to tap into our unconscious mind to eliminate the beliefs that get in our way of really accomplishing and achieving everything that we want, everything that we’re capable of. And right before the break, we were, Karen was saying that the belief that haunts and taunts most people is the, I’m not good enough belief. And so we took a break. And now I want to dig into a little bit. How do I make that one go away?

Karen Brown:

Well, the I’m not good enough is usually an umbrella for a lot of other more specific limiting beliefs. Like mine for the Ironman was, well, they’re elite athletes and I’m a recreational athlete, how could I possibly compete? If you bubble that up, that’s essentially I’m not good enough. But what the specific limiting beliefs were underneath it is what we really want to unearth, okay. So there were things like, I’m not a fast runner. I’m not a good swimmer. I don’t have enough time.

Drew McLellan:

This are probably kind of critical to an Ironman.

Karen Brown:

Well kind of.

Drew McLellan:

Run and swim.

Karen Brown:

Being that the first leg of it is a swim, that’s important. Also, things like I would think, I don’t have the time, I don’t have the support. I actually had a partner, a husband then who said I would actually never get there. So I had that too. Like probably a lot of people in your audience. Also, things like, I’m not a triathlete. I’ve never done this before. I mean, I have never even done a sprint triathlon, nothing, zero. So all of those. And that’s what we need to get to, that’s why you capture them all on the piece of paper, because you got to get them all out and identified so you can look at them. And then so that you can actively transform them. Because it’s nothing more than a habitual thought pattern, but look at the big impact that it’s having.

Drew McLellan:

Well, it’s almost like it’s playing at a frequency that why you can’t hear it, it’s like tainting your brain. So it’s like how do I A, put it to a frequency that I can hear? And then how do I change the tune?

Karen Brown:

Yes, that’s a great analogy. Perfect.

Drew McLellan:

So now that I’ve identified what those are, like, well, I’m not a good swimmer or whatever they are. And in our world, it might be well, I’m in a small market. So how can I be really great or I have a hard time finding the right employees or our clients don’t really appreciate what we do, whatever it is, I can’t really get to my full greatness. How do we then let, once we’ve identified them on this sheet of paper, how do we then begin to change them?

Karen Brown:

So that was the process that we went through a moment ago, where you identify them all on the left side of the page, and on the right side of the page, you start with the first one and you write the exact opposite of it.

Drew McLellan:

So like you wrote down, I am a good swimmer.

Karen Brown:

Yeah.

Drew McLellan:

I don’t know, were you a good swimmer?

Karen Brown:

No, I was a terrible swimmer. Now, here’s the transformation that I underwent, though, because I had to engage the power of my unconscious mind by saying I am a good swimmer, to start making strides in that area. I mean, I also had to take action on it, right, I hired a separate swim coach just to help me in swimming. But when I did that, it made it so much easier for me to physically make the adjustments to become a good swimmer. Again, it’s very simplistic and powerful when you tell your unconscious mind what you want, then its job is to go out and get it.

Drew McLellan:

So by telling it that you were a good swimmer, it started trying to figure out how to actually make you a good swimmer.

Karen Brown:

Exactly.

Drew McLellan:

So I have to think most people don’t ever do any of this. Right. So most people go around working on the 0.008 part of their brain forever, right?

Karen Brown:

Yes.

Drew McLellan:

Why do you think that is? Why do you think? Because this is revolutionary stuff. And it’s all based in science. You’re not just making this up, it’s not all woo woo stuff. It’s scientifically founded. So why do we as a people not know this? And why don’t we use the power of our unconscious mind? Why don’t we all do this?

Karen Brown:

Well, the first reason is that we, not all of us want to be faced with the fact that we’re all capable of more than we think. Honestly, you know those zombies who are going through life and we all know who these are, we know what they look like, they’re sort of going through life and they’re just riding the pleasure train, they’re kind of just riding from one thing to another. And it’s just one short gratification and then a dry spell, and then another short gratification, material things. The trappings of success that I talked about before, very materialistic kind of shallow stuff. Well, those zombies that are walking around, they don’t want to believe that there’s actually more to this life because then they might have to go find it.

Drew McLellan:

Got it.

Karen Brown:

They might have to figure out how to find it. And a lot of folks just don’t want to deal with that. They are the folks that are asking those questions and do have that nagging feeling inside like I did, of, okay, well, isn’t there more to it than this?

Drew McLellan:

What if I could do that?

Karen Brown:

Exactly. What if I can do that? What am I really capable of? Those are the folks that will do this. And I have to say, I’m seeing this growing a little bit now. Whereas 10 years ago, 20 years ago, oh, my gosh, nobody talked about this kind of stuff. So it’s becoming less of a secret now, even with the movie a few years ago called The Secret, that sort of started it. But it didn’t do a very good job of explaining the specific ways that your unconscious and conscious mind work together or are in conflict and what to do about it to bring out your true capability.

Drew McLellan:

Well, and I think that movie and the book, they didn’t really talk about the science part of it, so it did feel a little new age and woo woo like. So I think the premise, I think you’re right is in alignment, but they just didn’t drill deep enough for people. I think a lot, most business owners are pretty logical people. They want data, they’re used to sort of making big decisions, as you said, so I think they need something, they needed to be rooted in something real to really be able to wrap their arms around it and say, “Okay, I can do this or I can buy this or I can explore this.”

Karen Brown:

Absolutely. I mean, you have to have… If you’re a logical and smart and accomplished person, then you’ve got to see the steps. Somebody’s got to explain the steps and they’ve got to make sense to you. And I remember in The Secret, their big word was manifest. You do this and then it’s going to manifest, you finding the rock star parking spot right in front. Okay, well, how? That how is missing.

Drew McLellan:

What does that mean?

Karen Brown:

Exactly. And the how is what is in the book, that’s exactly I wrote it, because I thought, you know what, I want everyone to have access to these. They are simple. They are scientific and they work for everyone and everything. But no one is sharing them.

Drew McLellan:

Do you find that? So once somebody understands this, and maybe once they’ve tried it, my guess is that maybe something a little small. Do we learn how to do this? Does it become kind of a habit, do we learn how to do this faster and more efficiently? Because we’re sort of wired to every time we bump into a limiting belief or something, whatever, we’re not getting to our desired goal, whatever it may be. Once we’ve done it a couple of times, does it become sort of our default reaction to not accomplishing what we want so that we actually can move those barriers faster? Or is it always you have to labor through each step? And I guess what I’m asking is, does it become natural? Does it become sort of part of how you react to the world?

Karen Brown:

That is the good news. Yes, it does become easier. And it does become more of your default habit. Now, I would be lying if I said that you only have to conquer limiting beliefs about something once. No. Because as you grow and progress and develop in something, you’re going to come up with new limiting beliefs, right? I mean, that’s honestly why your unconscious mind was created to keep you safe and to immediately ascertain whether something was friend, food or foe. So that you knew what to do with it. But you are changing that habitual thought pattern. And it becomes easier and easier over time. And you see right away when something is a limiting belief, instead of right now, when you’re like, “Well, I just don’t have enough time.” And that’s a fact, right.

Drew McLellan:

So you start to recognize it for what it is.

Karen Brown:

Absolutely. And you can switch it so much more quickly. Because now you have a structure. And what you’ve also done is you have set up new patterns. So let me share this other way that your unconscious mind works. So if you think of your cell phone battery, like when you take your cell phone off the charger in the morning and it’s all charged up, right? It’s at 100%. And it processes really fast. Well, when you’re getting down to like 10% or 4% or whatever, it’s not processing fast. It’s moving slow, right?

And so your unconscious mind works the same. What happens is it is always looking to preserve energy. And the way it does that is it looks for patterns of behavior, and it bases all of this on your past behavior, not what you desire, not what you intend, it’s all on past behavior. And it looks very simplistically, very high level at all these different patterns and says, okay, well, what you’re telling me you want to do right now is like this other pattern 10 years ago or 15 years ago or however many patterns they can find that seem the same. And then it’ll say, well, look, we didn’t get good results on those, so we’re not going to get good results on these so we’re not going to do it.

Drew McLellan:

Or that used to make you very happy when you ate a whole pie or whatever. So you should have a whole pie.

Karen Brown:

Yes. Because you will feel happy again. Yes. Exactly. Yes, these are nothing more than patterns. And that’s also the good news and the bad news. So the longer you hang on to this stuff and don’t change it, the tougher it’s going to be should you ever choose to go back and try to change it. Once you do change it, though. And you become good at recognizing the patterns and then changing them actively, it becomes easier and easier. And you have to do less and less of it. It does feel natural. It does feel like your default.

Drew McLellan:

Well, and now you’re substituting the new patterns eventually. And so then, I would assume then now your unconscious mind actually helps you do what you want to do, right?

Karen Brown:

Yes.

Drew McLellan:

Because [crosstalk 00:41:48] new patterns.

Karen Brown:

Every time you accomplish something that you said you wanted to, then you come up against the next thing, the next goal, the next dream, the next challenge. And then you’re right, you have a new pattern that’s been established that your unconscious mind can look at and go, oh, well yeah, you did this successfully. You did this successfully. You did this, this and